On Diapers and Dependency: The ABDL Dilemma - by Headmistress Shahrazad

It is a rare adult who, when confronted by life’s endless responsibilities and heavy decision-making, HASN’T at some point thought to themselves, “Gosh, I wish I were 5 years old again. Or 3.” The allure of going back to a time when (at least theoretically) one’s basic needs were met, when one didn’t have to think or choose but could snuggle up with a teddy bear and nap knowing that an attentive caregiver was nearby, is understandably appealing. Despite this, the ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover) fetishist remains one of THE most misunderstood individuals under the vast BDSM umbrella.

ABDL fetish is a form of age play that takes place between consenting adults (18+) ONLY, for their own personal enjoyment. The role play can be erotic or non-erotic in nature depending on the enthusiast. While it may employ the trappings or symbols of childhood, such as diapers, onesies, bottles or pacifiers (all adult-sized, of course!) it has nothing to do with pedophilia, or the eroticization of children themselves. The external props exist to facilitate a desired age regression in the fetishist, who is usually seeking the “feeling” that is associated with being a baby or small child – that of being nurtured, cared for, protected, and loved unconditionally. And honestly, there isn’t one of us who on some level doesn’t want to feel those things, because we were all kids once, and those are some of a child’s most basic needs.

ABDL enthusiasts come from all walks of life and can be any age and any gender. The youngest I’ve met is 20 and the oldest is in his late 70’s. They compose about a quarter of all clients who visit The Ritual Chamber, and yet each often wonders aloud to me whether they are the only ones who enjoy exploring it, thinking themselves strange or deviant. In truth, we are very proud to have the only dedicated ABDL nursery in the city of Toronto currently, and it exists because of how many of you there are out there who have been brave enough to share your desires.

I hope that one day, when giving tours of The Ritual Chamber to private renters, I won’t have to introduce the nursery with “…And this is not everyone’s cup of tea but…”, because of the associated stigma and people’s lack of understanding. If you struggle with the concept of ABDL, I ask you to consider the myths and misconceptions about it and hold back judgement. While it may not be something you desire to engage with, that does not mean that others are wrong for exploring it.

If consensual ABDL is your fetish, know that there is nothing to be ashamed of. The Dominants at The Ritual Chamber are age play friendly and delighted to play Mommy/Daddy/Auntie/Babysitter to the part of you that is “little”. We understand that no two ABDL enthusiasts are the same, so you can be assured of a unique, custom-tailored experience every time. Check out the pics of the nursery here on the site and get in touch today!