Keeping Kinky in Quarantine by Lady Pim
1. Self Tying
Social isolation could be the time to finally work on your knots and hitches. Watch online video tutorials, and try to replicate what you see. You'd be amazed at how the sensations of partnered rope bondage can be translated to self tying. Stay present, don't forget to breathe, and observe how the rope makes you look, or feel. Take some pictures of your work, and discover the progress you make over time, or simply admire the shots at a later date. Remember that you should always have a pair of safety scissors handy, and shouldn't tie beyond your skill level (self suspensions are only for folks who have hundreds of hours of experience). Keep at it, and when it's safe to socialize again, you just might have a new sexy skill under your belt!
2. Kink Scenes Over The Phone
If you have a kinky partner, but don't have access to them, phone sex is a great way to continue practicing your dynamic. Sometimes we forget that our social media machines are also phones. But, for those who really enjoy the psychological and emotional aspects of kink, you will find that doing a scene with your Dom(me) on the phone is almost as salient as if they were in the same room. This is your chance to really communicate about the nuances of your kink, and embrace the opportunity to go deeper without other sensory distractions. Listen to your partner's breathing, the sighs, and the moans. Turn off the lights, and take in their entire soundscape. And if you don't have a partner to practice this with, there are plenty Professionals who would be very happy to receive a call from you right now.
3. Solo Sensation Play
Who says that you can't use kink implements on yourself? Get out the nipple clamps, your wartenberg wheel, and your ball gag, and embark on a journey of self discovery and pleasure mapping. Ask yourself: are my favourites still my favourites? How are these sensations similar or different to using them with a partner? Am I lingering on a particular activity longer than I do when someone else is in the room? Did any of this information surprise me? Solo sensation play can be a great way to check in with our bodies about the way we practice our kinks. Great kink experiences start with self knowledge and awareness. And this quarantine could be an ideal time to reconnect with yourself.
4. Edging The Night Away
This pandemic, I encourage you to switch up your masturbation routine! Why have an orgasm, when you can delay one, am I right? Edging yourself, meaning that you bring yourself to the brink of an orgasm and then backing off, is beneficial for several reasons. Delayed gratification often results in a more powerful finish, for one. It also lengthens the time of your masturbatory experience (and since we all have lots of time right now, why not?), which may be particularly enjoyable if you tend to reach orgasm rather quickly. If this is the case and you practice edging regularly, you will see long term benefits to issues with early ejaculation. This type of orgasm control might also be a fun game to play with yourself, just to mix things up. Think of it like a roller coaster: taking the intensity up and down a few times before the final release at the end. And what better way to spend your social isolation, then to treat yourself to a solo ride.
5. Sexting
Some folks find that they are much more confident writing their flirts, rather than saying them aloud. That said, we don't always remember to include sexting into our kink dynamics. Sexting can often give you the opportunity to send thoughtful, curated messages to your kinky partner. Since we are all forced to distance socially, now is a great time to see if this method of communication works for you. It might be a real asset to discover that you can describe your thoughts/desires/fantasies more clearly through writing. Just make sure that the person is in the right headspace to receive your sexy messages. Sending a simple question, like "may I sext with you/may I send you a sexy message" is a great way to ensure the party is consenting. And of course, if you don't currently have a partner to sext with, a Professional is always a great option.
6. Dressing Up
For some kinksters, dressing up plays a huge role in expressing themselves. Well, since you're home alone, there is nothing stopping you from wearing your maid outfit or puppy tail around the apartment, whenever you want! Do you feel connected to your sissy self wearing pantyhose or women's underwear? Do you feel Dominant wearing leather or latex? Perhaps a diaper and onesie is up your alley. Whatever your kink, now's the time to experiment with wearing these taboo items throughout the day. Even though things look bleak out in the world, look on the bright side. This might be a great time to unabashedly wear your kinky outfit of choice in the daylight!
7. Temperature Play
Have you ever had a melting ice cube traced over your skin? Or used a spicy warming lube with a partner? These practices can be incorporated into solo play, as well. Any toys made from glass or stainless steel are great conductors for temperature, and can either be placed momentarily in the freezer, or in a glass of warm water to heat it up. Wax play is a great solo option for playing with heat (use a massage candle with a low temperature melting point if you're a wax newbie). Take a look online at the lubricants and oils that offer a warming, cooling, or tingly effect. Temperature play can enhance your current masturbation routines, or offer a whole new sensation play experience. Just because you've never thought of using them alone, doesn't mean you can't!
8. Trading Pics or Videos
No one wants an unsolicited dick pic, but a consensual one is quite lovely to receive! If they're game, a great place to start is by asking your kinky partner what kind of picture or video they would like to receive. It may take a little time and effort to finesse the perfect shot, but overall should be a satisfying and stimulating task to complete. Get creative! Upon receiving, make sure that you give them some reassuring and timely compliments (unless humiliation or being ignored is one of their kinks). If this rings true to your dynamic, you can also play with how difficult you want to make the requests. And, don't forget that wholesome pics and videos are also something that can really resonate in a kink dynamic. Let Daddy know that his little slut is doing alright through all of this. In the current climate, it's important to connect on as many platforms as possible.
9. Remote Control Toys
Technology has come so far in the world of sex toys. Nowadays, there are so many choices of vibrating eggs, dildo, butt plugs, and e-stim devices that are either bluetooth capable or voice activated. Take a look at some of the vibrating toys you already own, and you may discover that it is bluetooth compatible! These remote control toys are just one more way we can feel connected to a long distance partner. Alternatively, if you only have low tech toys available, they can be used over distances as well. Just treat your submissive as the remote, instructing them when you want the intensity turned up or down. And if you don't have a play partner, this might be the perfect time to indulge in a Skype session with a Dominatrix.
10. Send Tribute
You may not be able to play with your kinky partners in person at this time, but you can still offer them kindness and support financially. If you're not one of those who is devastated by this pandemic, it's up to you to make sure that the disenfranchised have what they need. Pro Dom(me)s and other providers are out of work, and do not have sick days to cash in on. Ask how and where you can leave your favourite Professional Dom(me)s tribute. Bring your lifestyle kink partners groceries and hygiene products. Especially if they are disabled, immunocomprimised, or elderly. Leave them at their door if you're not practicing social distancing and isolation. Stay safe, everyone!